- Some Rules Regarding Infants
The piety of parents is a fundamental condition for raising good offspring.
The Shari'ah provides certain instructions that parents are advised to follow.
- General Manners to
Teach to Young Children
It is the duty of the educators to warn
children against listening to music and singing. Allah states,
'And of men who take idle talk to lead men away from the path
of Allah without knowledge, and make fun of it. For such there
will be humiliating punishment.'
- Some Wise Advice to Give to
Children
The issue of raising children is very
important, the interest of both parents and children depends
on it; the interest of the Ummah as well as the community’s
future is directly impacted by our ability to succeed in this.
- Virtues of Pregnancy
· When a woman is pregnant with a child, all the angels will make Istighfar
(repentance) on her behalf. Allah SWT will, for each day of her pregnancy, write
for her 1000 good deeds and erase from her 1000 bad deeds.
- Being Fair and Just
with our Children
Imagine yourself as the parent of these
two children (for some, this may not require imagination!)…
Now, ask yourself how difficult it would be for you to treat
them fairly and justly. Would you find yourself giving more
time and attention to one at the expense of the other?
- Names for Muslim
Children
- Parenting
Young Children: Practical Tips
It is important to realize that within these general
guidelines there are about as many ways to parent as there are parents. Parents
need to lake into consideration the unique personalities, dispositions, and
gifts of each child when deciding upon a particular approach.
What may work with one child may not necessarily be effective
with another. It is also imperative to remember that our
children are one of the greatest tests that we have from Allah
- Using Arabic in the Home
The importance of teaching Arabic to our children at an early age cannot be over emphasized. Arabic is the language in which both the Qur'an and Sunnah are conveyed to the believers. In addition, one needs to know Arabic in order to perform salah and make Hajj. Arabic also serves as a medium of communication between Muslims.
- Is Your Home an
Islamic Home?
It is best for the home to be close to a mosque
so that it will be easier for men to attend the prayers in
congregation and for all family members to visit the mosque for
lectures, study groups, and social gatherings. It is also
advisable to find an area where other Muslims live to obtain the
benefits of community. One should definitely be careful about
close neighbors and avoid those who are obviously immoral.
- Mother's Influence on
Children
The most prevailing influence anything can have
on the child is the influence of the mother. Hence the mother is
required to develop virtuous morals and character. Don’t
underplay any action of the child even if it seems trivial. You
should be well conscious of the child’s activities within the
home and beyond as well. However, the child should not be aware
that he is under surveillance as this would hamper his natural
development and he won’t be able to come out of himself.
Similarly, when you see something in his possession that was not
given by you or his father or any other relative, make sure you
delve into the source of that item.
- Advice to the Mother
Consider children a great bounty of Allah Ta'ala.
Rejoice at their birth. Congratulate one another on their
arrival. Welcome the children into this world with Du'aas of
righteousness and blessings. Express your gratitude unto Allah
Ta'ala for affording you the opportunity of nurturing a Muslim
servant and also for allowing you to leave behind your worldly
and religious successor. Make Du‘aa that Allah Ta'ala makes this
child an addition to the Muslim Ummah as a Da'i (inviter to
Islâm) and a true servant of the Deen
- Parenting - Have you
Talked to your Child today?
Have you had a meaningful conversation together?
Do you know what your child accomplished today, how he may be
feeling, whether or not he has any concerns? Does your child
know that you care about him?
- Our
Children are the Future
A child is a trust in the hands of his
parents. His pure hearts is a precious gem. If he is taught
goodness, and gets accustomed to it, he will grow to be happy in
this world and in the Hereafter. If he is neglected, and gets
accustomed to evil, he will be lost. Ibnul Qayyim said, ‘If you
consider the causes of bad behaviour in children, you will in
general find that the parents are the main cause.’
- To Every Father
These young girls who are deprived of modesty,
who display arrogance toward the commands of Allah Ta'aala, we
see and hear them - they have not fallen from the sky nor
emerged from beneath the earth - they come out from your home
and the home of your Muslim brother.
Hence, My Beloved Brother!
Fear Allah and take care of your beloved daughter more
than your worldly matters.
Do not become from amongst those with regard to whom
Rasulullah Sallallahu `Alaihi Wasallam, said "A cuckold will not
enter Jannah." The Sahaabah Radhiallahu anhum asked: "O
Rasulullah! Who is a cuckold?"
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- Status and Rights of a Wife
in Islam
The first Chapter which Allamah Nawawi has
included is the “Chapter of counsels about women”, meaning
those counsels which the Holy Prophet has given about the
rights of women.
- Encouragement of Marriage
and Having Children
Islam encourages the young Muslims to get married and have children. The
Prophet [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, 'O young people, whoever of you can
afford it, let him get married. It helps restrain the eyes and preserve the
private parts. But if he cannot afford it, let him fast, for it works as a
preventative.'
-
Etiquettes of Sexual Relations
Thus a need was felt to educate the Muslim public,
particularly our younger generation and especially those prospective young
couples that are on the threshold of entering info the sacred bond of Nikah, in
this often-neglected aspect of Islam, in order that their health
and marital bond remain intact and protected from all harms and
sorrow.
- Wedding of Faatima [radhiallaahu anha]
In this simple fashion, the wedding of the daughter of the leader of the worlds was solemnised. In following this Sunnah method, a wedding becomes very simple and easy to fulfill.
- Family Relationships in
Islam
Islam is a complete way of life. It considers the
family the corner stone of Islamic society. It bases the
atmosphere in the family on sacrifice, love, loyalty, and
obedience. When we say "family" we mean the traditional
definition of it namely husband, wife and children. Grandparents
are also part of the extended Muslim family.
- Falling Pregnant is a
great bounty of Allah Ta'ala
Once a woman has confirmed her pregnancy, she
should express her gratitude before Allah Ta'ala as this is
indeed a great bounty of Allah Ta'ala. This is such a boon that
many people beseech Allah Ta'ala throughout their lives for
pious children but Allah Ta'ala has destined otherwise. In fact
one of the greatest Nabîes of Allah Ta'ala, Hadrat Ibrahim (Alayhis
salaam) used to supplicate to Allah Ta'ala most profoundly and
frequently. Even Hadrat Zakariyya (Alayhis salaam) used to
supplicate for children most passionately and fervently during
the latter part of his life.
- Kafa'at (Suitability and
Compatibility) in Nikah
A healthy marital life coupled with a
good relationship make up the prime objects of Nikah. That is
only possible when natural inclinations and backgrounds are
shared (by both spouses). In the absence of such unity, living
together successfully, despite great effort is indeed difficult,
as attested to by many marital breakdowns due to
non-compatibility.
- Iddat
Upon the husband’s
death, or divorce, or the termination of the marriage contract
through Khul'a
(divorce at the instance of the wife), or the annulment
of the marriage by some other manner, the woman has to remain
staying in one house for a specified period of time. Until this
period expires, it is not permissible for her to go elsewhere.
The act of passing this period is called Iddat.
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"Marriage to the Ahlul Kitaab and the
General Harm Caused to the Muslim Youth"
Therefore, our message to our dear Muslim
Youth is this: Allah Ta’ala has honoured you with Islam and
granted you superiority over others in the event of you fully
adopting the Islamic way of life. ... Therefore, in view of the
above, a true indication of the foolishness of a man is his
choice of a woman who does not have IMAAN. The disastrous
consequences of such foolishness on himself, his wealth and his
family cannot be over-emphasized. History bears witness to this.
- Mehr (Dowry)
In South Africa it has become famous that
mehr-e-Fatimi is five hundred dirhams. We have not found any
clear, authentic narration to substantiate it. Thus to regard
this amount as mehr-e-Fatimi ,with certainty is not correct.
However this same amount (500 dirhams) being mehr-e-azwajunNabi
(Sallallaahu Alayhi
Wasallam) is substantiated from an authentic narration of
Sahih Muslim. Thus one should term the dowry at the time of
nikah as mehr-e-azwajunNabi(Sallallaahu
Alayhi Wasallam). If one wants to stipulate mehr-e-Fatimi,
then it is best and most preferred to calculate it with four
hundred mithqaal (1750g). This amount is substantiated from some
narrations.
- To the
Mother, to the Sister, to the Wife (interview with wife of
Shaheed Hawwaash)
He was imprisoned after the `Aqd
[contract], then when he was released, we married and stayed
together for one year, then he was imprisoned in 1954 and after
the sentence was passed, he gave me the choice of staying with
him or divorce. So I reprimanded him harshly, and informed him
of something he did not know. That once during our engagement,
he was giving a talk in one of the open gatherings, and he fell
unconscious, and was taken to hospital. Then we found that one
of his kidneys was severely damaged, because of an old illness
he got when he was imprisoned as a student, in a cell filled
with cold water in winter. [At that time] the brothers offered
me to cancel [the engagement] if I wanted, but I refused not to
be with him on this journey because of this situation that Allah
had placed him in during one of his trials.
- Kindness to Parents
Allah says in the Quran: And worship Allah and
ascribe no partners to Him and do good to parents, relatives,
orphans, the needy, the related neighbour, the distant neighbour,
the fellow traveller, the wayfarer and the slaves whom your
right hand possess. Lo! Allah loves not such who are proud and
boastful. (4-36).
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